The Four Myths of Self Compassion

If you have no compassion for yourself then you are not able of developing compassion for others. – Dalai Lama


We are conditioned to put the other person ahead of ourselves, sometimes to the detriment of our own ability to be kind to ourselves. Why is this?


Dr. Kristin Neff was teaching a workshop I recently attended about self-compassion. She had the workshop participants get into pairs and sit facing our partners. Then, one person closed her eyes while the other looked at her and silently repeated a loving-kindness meditation Dr. Neff shared with us.

I didn’t know the person I was paired with. But, as I looked at her and silently directed the meditation toward her, I felt waves of compassion and kindness and even love for her.


By Bobbi Emel