No More Blaming – Cultivating Empathy for the Person We Blamed

Cultivating Empathy for the Person We Blamed
Finding empathy for the person we blame is one of the most difficult practices we can develop. I remember a time when I was in a relationship with someone, let’s call her Nancy, who was addicted to a substance. One time I was in deep trouble and asked Nancy to stay with me instead of reaching for the substance.


In response, she became angry at me and walked away. I was so distraught that I most literally couldn’t fall asleep. I lay in bed blaming her for not caring about me. This only increased my agitation, until I decided that since I couldn’t sleep anyway, I might as well engage in finding an empathic understanding of her choice.


by: Miki Kashtan