Cultivating Empathy for the Person We Blamed
Finding empathy for the person we blame is one of the most difficult practices we can develop. I remember a time when I was in a relationship with someone, let’s call her Nancy, who was addicted to a substance. One time I was in deep trouble and asked Nancy to stay with me instead of reaching for the substance.
In response, she became angry at me and walked away. I was so distraught that I most literally couldn’t fall asleep. I lay in bed blaming her for not caring about me. This only increased my agitation, until I decided that since I couldn’t sleep anyway, I might as well engage in finding an empathic understanding of her choice.
by: Miki Kashtan