Lack of Empathy: the Most Telling Narcissistic Trait: Don’t expect them to listen, validate, or support you.

The narcissist lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others.

Lack of empathy is one of the most striking features of people with narcissistic personality disorder. It’s a hallmark of the disorder in the same way that fear of abandonment is in borderline personality disorder.

“Narcissists do not consider the pain they inflict on others; nor do they give any credence to others’ perceptions,” says Dr. Les Carter in the book Enough of You, Let’s Talk About Me (p. 9). “They simply do not care about thoughts and feelings that conflict with their own.” Do not expect them to listen, validate, understand, or support you.


Randi Kreger