» Jews and Arabs Refuse to Be Enemies: A Compassionate Response to War – Mindfulness and Psychotherapy

Henry David Thoreau said, “It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.”


At some point in our development we learn to see others through a lens of fear and hate. Because the brain is so malleable in our younger years these beliefs become that much more ingrained and as we grow older the skew of our lens becomes hardened. When it comes to the Middle East, it seems there is a collective lens that’s been hardened through history that Arabs and Jews have an irreconcilable relationship.  

There seems to be a social construction of hopelessness that we’re all entranced in. But if hate and ignorance are learned, is it possible they can be unlearned?


The reality is nobody has “the answer” to this conflict and the historical trauma on both sides runs deep. When safety feels threatened, as is a continual reality there, it’s a natural survival reaction to close down the mind and heart in order to protect against vulnerability and default to a fight or flight response. If someone was shooting arrows at you, you’d put up your shield and either run or eventually shoot back. At the same time, I know there are many people on both sides, if not the majority, that see the common humanity between each other, want deeply to feel safe and protected, and long to live in peace.


From thoughts come actions and from actions comes consequences.

Read through the intentions below in the following “Compassionate Peace Practice.”


Set your judgments aside for a moment and see if you can bring them into your heart and mind when considering all those who are suffering in this war.


A Compassionate Peace Practice (Share Generously):


“May all those who have suffered violence and all those who have committed violence feel safe and protected from inner and outer harm (because if they did feel safe they’d be less like to commit violent acts).”


“May all those in conflict be awakened to their common humanity.”


“May all those in conflict be free from hatred and the delusion of separateness.”


“May all people with hate in their hearts release this burden and learn to forgive.”


“May we all be free from the fear that keeps us stuck in destructive cycles of conflict.”


 “May we all live in peace.”


Almost everyone is touched by this conflict and it is often and emotionally stirring subject to even bring up. Please share your intentions, thoughts, stories and questions below. Your interaction creates a living wisdom for us all to benefit from.