I’m discouraged over how automatic and easy it is to blame. The other day I was driving in an area I didn’t know so I turned on my trusted GPS unit (Daniel) and entered my information. Daniel was taking more time than usual and so I started out in the direction I suspected was correct. No sooner had I gotten started when Daniel said in his calm British accent, “Recalculating.” And I said in a voice louder than I am proud of, “Well, you didn’t tell me where to go!”
Kaboom. I blamed a computer. I actually blamed a computer.
Why do we blame others (people or objects)? I think blame is a habit we engage in to reassure ourselves that we’re okay, good enough or loveable. Blame and judgment happen so quickly we don’t even notice that we’re doing it most of the time. And, whenever we blame, two things for sure happen:
1. We create separation between ourselves and other people.
2. We usually say something or do something that will prevent us from meeting our needs.
So, today I vow once again to watch my blame and judgments, to have compassion for myself for how habitual this pattern of thinking is, and to consciously choose a different behavior. How about you?