Everyone Isn’t a Winner–and Shouldn’t Be

How to compete in a way that creates “good” winners and losers.


 Empathy goes hand-in-hand with collaboration. Does that mean that empathetic parenting and teaching should be devoid of competition? It’s natural to want to shield our kids—whether our students or our offspring—from losing. But eliminating competition from our children’s lives would be doing them a disservice. The world is full of competition, full of opportunities to win out and to lose out. Applying to college, entering the job market, navigating romantic relationships—all of these inevitable “real” life experiences will involve wins and losses.