Empathy Is Not Indulgence – Empathy helps children bounce back

Empathy is not indulgence. It is not permissive and it is not laissez-faire. Listening with empathy helps children bounce back. The solution of every emotional or behavioral problem of childhood should begin (but does not end) with our willingness to make a genuine effort to hear our child’s concerns and to understand her point of view…


When you listen empathically to your children, children experience reduced stress – and then, increased cognitive and emotional flexibility. In your child’s behavior, you will see less argument, less defiance, and less withdrawal. Moments of empathic understanding then open a pathway toward emotional maturity.

Ken Barish, Ph.D.