I recently read a report in the New York Times of a neuro-science experiment which confirmed that people who experience being powerful are less empathetic
It is a radical idea that we take on this stance of powerlessness. By powerlessness, we don’t mean that we are supposed to sit there like lumps of clay feeling helpless. What we want to do is to be empathetic as a way of validating and empowering the parties to step forward and chart their life direction through the conflict. If the study has any validity, we know that once we have the impulse to tell people what to do or try to push, manipulate, wheedle or cajole them in the direction that makes sense to us, if we act in any of those ways, we are undermining the parties. And by the way, we are less empathetic.