Do You Feel Me? : Why Healthy Empathy Is Important Regardless of Your Type

On the other hand, can there be too much empathy? Codependence was a bit of an overused word a few decades back. However, it carried with it, in part, the idea that it’s not good to merge too much of your identity with another person’s.

A couple of the dangers that may come with such a merger are that you begin to lose your own identity, and you become too burdened with the other person’s problems. Enabling someone’s addiction because you feel their pain is neither helpful for you nor the addict, for example. Feeling someone’s pain can be healthy. Adopting it altogether is something else. If too much empathy isn’t codependence, it can certainly mimic its symptoms.

The ancient philosophers advised us, “All things in moderation.” Empathy is no different.