A surprising new empathic skill: Complaining! (Consciously!) Karla McLaren

When people think of empathy, they tend to see it as a soft skill, full of yielding and niceness.

That’s a part of empathy, but there’s a deeper and more full-bodied form of empathy that helps you engage with people when they (and you!) are not feeling nice at all. In The Art of Empathy,

I share a number of relationship skills for dealing with conflict and for repairing bonds, and this is one of my favorites: Conscious Complaining.